When we began working together, she was navigating the quiet discomfort of a life that was in active change – job loss, recent move, health shifts. She wasn’t in crisis. She wasn’t breaking down. But the way she spoke about her goals came with a sigh. A hesitation. A sense that the version of her she wanted to be was… far away. There was a natural sense of overwhelm.
And here’s the thing about that version of us we long for: it never arrives in one sweeping gesture. It arrives in mini-moments. In inner negotiations. In the way we show up when no one else is watching.
With coaching, she committed to small, steady steps: showing up to sessions even when she was tired, getting curious about her language (especially the “I can’t because…” stories), and saying out loud what she really wanted, later on journaling about the reasons it was important to her, the obstacles in her way, and the possible solutions. For the first few sessions, these were the main focuses. Clarity. Acceptance. Integration. Then, rewiring with intention and compassion. Over time, she realized she had already begun changing. Not by forcing herself—but by aligning more and more with her truth. A simple notion, “love your new body,” meant giving herself grace, understanding, and self-love, not self-criticism.
Then came the spark moment. One of the goals she had set months earlier—one she had almost forgotten about—suddenly materialized. She did it. And the most remarkable part? She didn’t even realize at first she had done it, because it came so naturally. That’s the power of the mind when it is given the freedom to live outside of the walls it has built over the years. That’s the kind of integration real change brings.
In our final session of the package, her reflection said it all: “It was literally the goal I set… and I did it.”
Her story is a reminder that transformation is not always loud. It can be subtle. Whispered. Quietly courageous. It unfolds in the moments we choose to believe, even just a little more than we doubt.
You don’t need to know the whole path. You just need to take the next small step. Like she did. And that might just be the step that changes everything. It’s a technique. You can use it in just about anything that you set your mind and heart upon.
